Most mothers are happy to be given flowers or just spend time with their children on Mother’s Day. For one Manchester, PA mother, Sheila Beichner, she will receive more than a gift next week – she’ll get a second chance at life.
Sheila was healthy for most of her life. At 27, she started having recurring urinary tract infections and went to the doctor to find out what was going on. She was diagnosed with chronic kidney disease, but was told by her doctor that she had one of the least aggressive forms of the disease. She didn’t have any major symptoms for nearly a decade.
Then at age 37, her health began to significantly decline. Her kidney function decreased, and she started to experience muscle spasms, cramping and excessive water retention in her legs, ankles, hands and feet. Her issues progressed quickly, until she reached stage four kidney failure and had to be listed for a life-saving kidney transplant.
She knew that the wait for a new kidney could be a long and painful road. Many people wait years for a kidney transplant, and currently 21 people (on average) die each day in the U.S. while waiting. She relied on her faith and church for support, and found a group for individuals who are going through severe illness. The group, led by Lisa Little, RN, gave Sheila hope during her challenging struggles with her failing health.
At one point, Sheila and her son spoke to their congregation about her need for a kidney transplant. As she desperately waited for a phone call telling her that a kidney was available, she also shared her story in hopes that a living donor would come forward. Twelve people were tested in an effort to save Sheila’s life through living donation. Even her support group organizer, Lisa, was tested. Then something amazing happened.
“When I found out that Lisa was a match and wanted to be my donor, I was in awe.” said Sheila. “It’s such a selfless and heroic act. I am filled with gratitude for her. We’re going to do the surgery on May 13th. I still can’t believe it.”
Sheila has gone through a very dark period in her life while dealing with her illness, and she is anxiously awaiting her transplant. As Mother’s Day approaches, she is looking forward to having her health back, and is grateful to have more time with her son Kyle, who is now 14.
“When I spoke in front of my church to discuss my need for a transplant, I asked Kyle to stand with me. I wanted him to see how important it is to be supportive and to show compassion. I also took him to the support group with me. I think he gets it – life has ups and downs.” she said.
Sheila spoke about her mother as well. “My mother will be my caretaker after my transplant. She is the type of person who would do anything for others. She’s really helped me while I’ve been sick – cooking, cleaning and taking me to appointments. She’s a very positive person.” said Sheila. “I hope that everyone registers as an organ donor. You can save a person’s life. I can’t imagine a greater thing to do for someone.”